Editor’s note: This is a guest post by Treisha.
Smile, frown, flip your hair, close your eyes, wave your hand, and bow your head—and you just made six different body gestures that extol different meanings. Without opening your mouth and uttering a word, you are expressing nonverbal messages that speak volumes. In this article, we will learn about how body language can build better relationships at home and at work.
What Is Non Verbal Communication and Body Language?
Knowing how to read body languages is important as these define what a person truly means. If you’re adept at the art of understanding people’s messages through body language, you can have better connections with other people and avoid confusions with mixed signals if you only focus on what’s said.
By verbal communications, you use your ears and your senses to analyze the words you received. On the other hand, by nonverbal communications, you use your eyes and your senses as well to further study the person’s mood, intentions and true feelings. Nonverbal messages can span not only from the body gestures but to some extent also to the verbal messages. How fast or slow a person talks and how loud or low his voice is broadcasts different things.
How Non-Verbal Communication Can Help Your Relationship
Decoding body language in relationships can help you communicate with your partner more effectively and understand the meaning behind his words. Here’s a list of non-verbal actions you can do to improve your relationships:
1. Maintain Eye Contact
People say that the eyes are the windows to the soul. True enough, when we talk to others, we look at their eyes to show interaction and mean serious business. For instance, in a job interview, avoiding the eyes of the interview won’t help you land the job. This implies that you are nervous, not paying attention or simply not confident to face the questions at hand. Another is in a love relationship. Saying “I love you” to your beau won’t be as honest without looking into his eyes. Eye contact is about affection, showing of interest and hostility. It maintains the flow of connection and conversation you have with the other person.
2. Mind Your Touch
Touching does not mean always cuddling but just casual touches between colleagues and friends. A great deal of communication happens when someone taps you on your shoulder. This may imply support or calling for your attention. A weak handshake with a business partner can be tantamount to weak assurance. So you better be mindful on how you touch others.
3. Keep Personal Distance
Keeping distance is a matter of knowing the acceptable space between you and the person you’re talking to. There are four types of spaces: intimate for lovers, personal for casual friends and family members, social for a group and public for a large crowd. In any case, you should provide an ample space to promote comfort in the conversation. Do not stand too close and also don’t go too far. Know your stage well before approaching others so you can mean no threat or harm about them.
4. Set Proper Tone of Voice
Pay attention to your timing and pacing when voicing out your opinions or responding to statements. Your tone of voice and inflection may convey irritation, anger, sarcasm, confidence or affection. You can practice by recording your own voice and listening to it. Be aware of your emotions and try to be natural when you speak so others will respect and trust you more.
While verbal communication either through phone or personal can be faked, nonverbal communication can’t. You should be able to send accurate cues as these influence the way others comprehend you. To improve your relationship, interpret how different people act and ask them to confirm what you understand as body language may also vary from different locations, cultures, backgrounds and time.
Treisha is a portrait of a modern-day Party Girl. Nights of dancing and socializing are not uncommon in Treisha’s life, but she claims to know and respect her limits. When responsibilities and opportunities align themselves, she knows how to prioritize them and keep them in order. Treisha works part-time as a blog manager and writer for Uratex Blog.