“Maybe I still have doubts regarding the things I want, but I’m big enough to know what I don’t want. “ (Personal quote)
Some decisions are so hard to make that you can actually feel the pain in your body. Every muscle inside you screams out of pain. You want to cry, but don’t have enough tears. You feel sorry, but there’s nothing you can do about it. You’ve already made a decision. All you have left is pain.
Love is not everything. Compatibility is not everything. Affection and respect are not everything. Sometimes the best thing you can do for yourself and your partner is to move on and let go. It doesn’t matter how much you care about him or her. Actually, if you do love him/her, you’ll move on and let your significant other find someone better than you. Maybe you’re too busy with your career. Or you can’t commit 100% to him. Perhaps you and your partner want different things in life, or have different expectations from your future as a couple. If that’s true, why shouldn’t let him or her move on and find something better than what you have to offer?
Should You Do the Next Step or Take a Break?
Before starting a relationship or getting involved for real, spend some time with yourself. Establish your priorities. What are you planning to do in the future? Can you commit yourself 100% to your partner and build a family? Will you have enough time for him/her? Will you be able to remain faithful in a monogamous relationship? Have you ever talked about the things you want to accomplish as a couple? What about your individual plans? The little things that set you apart now (or bother you) are the ones that will eventually ruin your relationship.
If one of you already has a career, he/she may not want the other to work for hours and spend time away from home. Or maybe both of you have successful careers. As a result, none of you will be able to commit to family life. Spending time apart and focusing on your careers might work in the first few months or years, but it’s not going to work on long term. It’s a proven fact. Of course, you could do a bit of everything, but you’ll never be able to achieve your maximum potential in your personal and professional life.
Never enter a relationship without being aware of your priorities. Regardless of how much you like a man or woman, it won’t work unless you’re willing to make it work. If you’re a young person who’s trying to build a career, your personal life will always come second. This is not a bad thing as long as you accept the consequences and take responsibility for your actions.
Don’t let your significant other believe that you’ll make time for him and that you’ll be there no matter what. Deep inside, you know this is not going to happen. What if you receive a high paying job abroad? Or maybe you get a promotion and have to work more? Regardless of how much you want a genuine relationship, let it go. It won’t work. Not now.
Compatibility Is Not Everything
Being compatible with someone is not enough to make your relationship work. If you and your partner expect different things and have different plans for your future, your relationship will eventually fail. The consequences might be catastrophic. So what options do you have? Well, you could either stay single or find someone who wants a laid-back relationship.
If you’re lucky, you might find someone who is not career-oriented and doesn’t care too much about money and jobs. Some people are not made for these things. They prefer to stay home, raise kids, watch TV, and do house chores to please their partners. Others are born to lead others and run successful businesses. You can be one or another but not both.