Unfortunately, bad dates happen. When you go out with someone for the first time, no one can guarantee that things will go well. Instead of wasting your time and staring across the table at a guy (or gal) who’s unbelievably boring or completely full of himself, you should rather ditch your dead-end date fast. A bad date can leave you feeling depressed, bored, and even embarrassed. Sometimes the person you’re dating is a mess. Here are a few simple tips on how to get out of a bad date gracefully:
Set a Deadline
Before going on a date, tell the guy you’re seeing that you might have to leave earlier because you have something else to do later. Find an excuse like: “I’m sorry, but I can’t stay more than an hour because I have to visit my mom later/ go shopping with my best friend/ take my pet to the doctor, etc.” If the date goes well, you can tell him that your mom or your best friend doesn’t need you anymore. On the other hand, if you decide to ditch your date, excuse yourself and leave.
Fake an Illness
Another simple way to get out of a bad date is to play sick. If you don’t like the guy you’re dating, tell him that you’re not feeling well. Let him know that you have a headache, or start coughing uncontrollably. Say something like: “I’m sorry, but I’m not feeling too well. It would be better for me to go home. It was nice meeting you, perhaps we’ll have the opportunity to talk more next time.” Don’t get into details – after all, you don’t owe him anything.
Plant a Phone Call
This old trick still works. All you have to do is to ask a friend to call you 30-45 minutes into the date. If your date is a mess, pretend that your friend needs your help immediately. Why prolong the agony? Find an excuse and leave without causing a scene.
Blame the Boss
Pretend that you’re a workaholic or have a lot of work to do. This is one of the easiest ways to get out of a bad date. Let the guy know that you’re very stressed because of your boss, or that you’re currently working on a challenging project that requires your full attention. Tell him that you should really leave early because of your work. You can use this excuse even if you’re a freelancer. Say that you’re dealing with some difficult clients who have ongoing work for you.
Sometimes rejecting someone is tougher than getting rejected. However, this doesn’t mean that you can’t be honest when you really don’t like a guy. Tell him that he’s a great person, but you don’t see things working out between the two of you. Eventually you can let him know that the two of you could be friends. Most men will get the “Thanks, but, no thanks” message and move on.